Andrea tantaros,I Was Sexually Harassed | Useful info

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I was sexually harassed and I'm fighting back.

It happens to roughly one in three women in the workplace cosmopolitan survey found that seventy percent of them don't report former Fox News co-host andrea tantaros tells why she risked everything to file a lawsuit and speak out andrea tantaros was a rising star fox news a political analyst and co-host of the popular show the five when she says the powerful head of the company Roger Isles began sexually harassing her as she alleges in an ongoing lawsuit he asked has been around to show him her body wear tighter dress and hug him in addition to prying into your love life speculating about how she would look in a bikini and asking her to discuss the steps lives of other employees flagrant misogyny that was the environment she says tantaros alleges she reported the harassment and was first ignored then later told to drop that because a powerful man but she didn't drop it I don't care how much power men have they don't have the right to disrespect women she says the network moved here to a much less visible show with no explanation.

She says in her lawsuit and no announcements to.

Viewers estimate arrows tells it she was blackballed and badmouth by executives and blocked from publicity opportunities.

In what she saw as the ultimate act of retaliation she was yanked off here this past April hours before the launch of her book about feminism tied up and not the network maintains it suspended her because the book.

Otherwise she has called that play outrageously false in July former Fox News anchor gretchen carlson filed a sexual harassment and retaliation suit against tiles after an internal investigation by parent company 21st century fox i'll still part of the network with a 40 million dollars severance in August anteros filed your own suit against Fox News miles and for network executives alleging the details of sexual harassment and retaliation outlined in this article representatives for all the defendants deny her claims minute more violent Fox noted that the company had made clear its commitment to making things right with women who had been disrespected but then tantaros is not a victim.

She is an opportunist who's lawsuit is filled with thousands in September 21st century fox settled the carlson suit for 20 million dollars and taro says she was offered a settlement to in the seven figures which she rejected as it would have required her to renounce her claims and agreed to eternal silence at presstime the parties remained at war with Fox News and I'll trying to move the.

Private arbitration here anteros describes your be laid out in her lawsuit and offers her advice on what to do with your ever harassed don't let fear stop you.

As women we may initially want to ignore harassment it feels easier to shut it down and not acknowledge it ever happened or help it goes away but that approach never works.

It's much better to have a reputation for being bossy and standing up for yourself than to be someone who doesn't that other road is not easiest in the long run I feared i'd be punished that was the inherent culture of Box challenge the regime and you would pay price despite my fear i knew i couldn't stay silent.

That's where courage comes into play courage is resistance to fear that the absence of it never feel embarrassed miles asked me to turn around so he could get a good look at me so he could you my posterior at Fox the horror stories vials asking women to do this we're so prevalent because women had commiserated about it that it was named the twirl I was insulted I'm a very all business type of person so when you're meeting with the CEO of the company that's your moment to discuss how to improve ratings and make the show better i also felt embarrassed its side because the harasser should really be the one to feel embarrassed for acting like a pic not the woman being subjected to harassment.

I actually rode my brow and looked at him at what I know my facial expression was a mix of disgust and one smack him across the face.

Keep an email trail i suggest sending emails to superiors documenting the harassment and saving the emails on a file at home not on your work computer people back up on a flash drive in case something happens with your personal i also recommend keeping the journal even executive is the one doing the harassing the human resources are to another executive order to the general counsel if you don't get an answer from one person go to someone else in my case i also went to my attorney if you don't have an attorney hire one for a consult it's usually only a couple hundred dollars and it's worth more than those Jimmy Choos.

I promise.

Talk to someone you can trust with sexual harassment especially when it involves retaliation.

There is a lot of emotion that comes along with it.

You're almost done because it's this realization that sexism is alive and well.

Still it's always helpful to talk to somebody about it then you have somebody who can validate your lives and also help you do with what it feels like to be harassed and retaliated against support other women.

My therapist decided to come forward and to validate my claims because she couldn't stand the portrayal of me in the press as a liar i'm not sure there are words that could accurately capture the gratitude I felt she mailed me after reading the press reports and said I know that you're telling the truth in my moment of trouble when most people run the other way especially when it's such a public fight.

Adversary is big and powerful and intimidating as Fox News she chose to run towards me as ugly as the story there is a beautiful flashpoint of women supporting other women don't feel you have to quit when sexual harassment came up during this presidential election I heard people say that if a woman is being sexually harassed she should just quit.

Absolutely not why should a woman have to give up everything she's worked for because some repugnant creep and act professional and keep his emotions in check.

Some women may want to quit and that their choice and no one should stay in a job where physical or mental danger exists but women should know they have options they can stay and fight through there.

Companies stated solutions mechanism for leavin light through a legal process don't get too personal watch out for questions about your romantic status or your personal life choices i was asked if I ever wanted to get married if I wanted to have Jill.

Avoid personal questions about your colleagues you don't want to be the facilitator of a predator by providing information it's also just bad business don't participate in disrespectful talk about your colleagues it always come back and haunt you.

Also be mindful of men who complain about their relationships because it's often used as a trial balloon to see how a woman will react.

That's one thing that I'll stood a lot refused to take the bait lean on a partner Cheryl and were great advice and lean in the single most important career decision that a woman makes its whether she will have a life partner and who that partner is one of the reasons i had the courage to fight it's because I've been blessed with the best partner a woman could possibly ask for he's the one who encouraged me to take on this fight he supports me through the good days and bad days of litigation and he unequivocally has my back so that i can lean in and keep my eyes on the target in battle two is always better than one you might not always have that person by your side but there is importance in the notion that no woman is an island think about the big picture every woman has to do what's best for her but in my case it wasn't about taking the check and shutting up and felt the responsibility to clean up a sexist culture and fight back for the women fox had bullied and bought off and silence before me and for the ones who may still be there.

Fearful of speaking out it's about systemic change there has to be cultural change the only way to change the culture is to fight the only way that women are ever going to eradicate sexism physically Gillet.





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